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Post by 19811945 on Jul 13, 2012 10:30:16 GMT -5
In case of your parents being home late, could you get something be able to communicate better, ie mobile/text (pay as you go type - cheaper) or a pager in order to leave a message to let you know when they are going to be home. It would be a device that both your parents and you can use, so leave a little message saying why time has changed and when they will be their eta (expected time arrival). I hope you understand what I'm trying to say, as I'm having slight problems myself with what I've typed. I do, my parents have us on a family plan, but until they get back safely, even if they do call, I can't relax. It annoys me to all ends, and I have been to so much counselling to get it to stop, but nothing works. And that is only one example of the things that my anxiety disorder makes me worry about. Others include what people (and that is even people who I don't know and walk past in, say, a mall) think of me, how I'm going to spend my day even if I have it all planned out and also, like when I leave my cat at home, I worry about if he will escape and get hit by a car. That is just a few more examples. Sigh... I really do wish it wouldn't bother me so much, but my brain just overreacts and I can't stop it. Have you tried meditation techniques? Like breathing in and out, and saying that "they will be in so many minutes, I know they are safe...", something along those lines?! |
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Post by rachelhitsujii on Jul 13, 2012 10:35:57 GMT -5
Yeah it's a right pain in the ass, especially since I already have trouble with social interaction. So if someone starts to talk to me in person, I freeze up and my mind starts whizzing with thoughts like "are they talking to me to be friendly or do they want to critisize me in some way?" I know that it is completely irrational to think like that, but it is just how my thought processing goes. Which also causes me to have very little self-confidence in myself and what I do have is easily shattered.
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Post by Miss Wings on Jul 13, 2012 10:45:51 GMT -5
OMG! I actually got called a shapeless blob when attempting to *gulp* tryonadress. There I said it..
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Post by kumainpink on Jul 13, 2012 19:04:13 GMT -5
O.o You got called a shapeless blob? That's a weird insult...
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Post by Miss Wings on Jul 13, 2012 19:07:11 GMT -5
It was Mum. Had to try dresses for this christening and its true anyway. I'm short and fat but that's tablets and illnesses for you. Sent from: Pinky is my Sisky  |
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Post by kumainpink on Jul 13, 2012 19:09:09 GMT -5
<.< If you're short and fat, then I'm a Hobbit!
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Post by Miss Wings on Jul 13, 2012 19:11:13 GMT -5
Must upload recent pic on fb as proof lol.. Sent from: Pinky is my Sisky |
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Post by kumainpink on Jul 13, 2012 19:23:47 GMT -5
lol *huggles ya*
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Post by teehee100 on Aug 6, 2012 15:05:31 GMT -5
Hello everyone. My surgery went well for the most part. There is a slight setback in that my lower jaw is now shifted to the left. We are trying to correct it with rubber band and I'm hoping for there to not be a second surgery. On the upside I might be able to have mash potatoes sometime this week. I've been on an all liquid diet since my surgery on July 12.
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Post by Dimcairien on Aug 6, 2012 15:08:34 GMT -5
Liquid diets suck. I've had to be on them for short periods when I've had a surgery. I hope you'll be able to progress to soft foods soon as there are only so many smoothies you can eat before you're sick of them.
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Post by teehee100 on Aug 6, 2012 15:15:18 GMT -5
So true. I've actually had some luck with soups that have been put in a blender. They're actually pretty good.
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Post by mountaingirl777 on Aug 6, 2012 19:37:32 GMT -5
have you tried the cream soups like cream of mushroom, cream of chicken, ect? Also try just broth. I had to go on a gatorade and broth diet when I was sick with the gastric flu for a week. for the first day or two I could only drink broth and gatorade, then I could eat crackers, then I could try like a creamy type soup (What I asked about above), and so on until I could eat solids again. Ugh, that was a painful and lousy week or two because I had to restart my digestive tract.
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Post by Chameleon on Aug 6, 2012 20:10:21 GMT -5
Well, I'm deaf. Lost the hearing as a toddler, so I can't miss it. And since I'm a teenager, I've often been frustrated, as it seemed like 99 % of the people I knew were completely healthy. Of course a lot of them aren't, but it was still frustrating, but I've managed to come over the bitterness. But what I hear her, makes me feel lucky that I'm 'only' deaf.
I've got a few allergies, and that's that. But there's several illnesses in the family. My dad has to high blood-pressure and my brother has leukemia, which he's in treatment for. And then there's the other family members who've had everything from cancer (a great-aunt died of it) and diabetes. We're mostly on the physical illnesses, not psychical.
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Post by melodypottersnape on Aug 6, 2012 21:06:37 GMT -5
I've never had it checked but I think I might have hearing problems. I can't participate in lunchroom talks cause I can't understand what they're saying. I noticed that the others around me have no problem. It's not just the lunchroom anywhere with the slightest background noise and I usually have to have things repeated atleast six times. Though oddly there will be instances where I can here a noise before others. Like I heard it from a farther distance and when it got closer they could hear it.
Also this year I started watching my friend play gun games.(Halo, Fear, ect.) It doesn't take long before the noise literally makes me feel lik I'm going to hurl, I get lightheaded, and a sheen of sweat covers my face. It didn't use to do this.
Do any of you have an idea for the gun game problem?
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Post by mountaingirl777 on Aug 6, 2012 22:06:19 GMT -5
I used to get my hearing checked a lot and we found out that I had lost 15% of my hearing in one ear. It is weird because I can tell a difference. I plug one ear and it sounds a little muffled than the other. It helps my hypersensitivity, especially during movies in theaters or stuff that I have no control on the sound. I just plug one ear and listen with the other that is muffled. I get weird looks. sometimes I find myself turning my head to the side that isn't muffled more, especially when in a noisy place and someone is talking to me.
questions: does anyone suddenly get a ringing in their ears every now and then? Also, do your eyes spasm and make it seem like there is an earthquake? I get both every so often and sometime it comes with a lightheaded feeling, not really dizzyness, but like my head is just light or something.
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Post by Kitty279 on Aug 7, 2012 0:49:37 GMT -5
Melody, my colleague complains about the same, she lately has problems to understand with background noise, but in her case, we put it down to age (she's over 60). At your age, I'd recommend to have it checked by a doctor.
Mountaingirl, that ringing sounds like tinnitus to me. Haven't heard of that eye problem, however. In any case, I think you should go to a doc and have that looked at. The combination and lightheadness is what worries me most. What if that is getting worse and causing real dizzyness?
Oh, and Teehee - I am sorry to hear that and hope things get better soon. That sounds like a very frustrating diet!
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Post by teehee100 on Aug 7, 2012 11:51:22 GMT -5
Thank you and it can be. I was told I can open my mouth a little more today. So I'm going to to to eat my dinner with a spoon, since so far I've been using a straw. Wish me luck.
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Post by Sailorgreeny on Aug 7, 2012 22:35:20 GMT -5
Thank you for sharing that with us, Wings. I'm certain that took some courage to say it here. And don't worry, you're opinions are very interesting, and if you need someone to talk to, you can talk to me as well. I am curious as to how many of us have a disability. I was born with neurofibromatosis which is a genetic disorder. Thankfully, I don't have any mental problems, which can come from it, but I have scoliosis, which is a curvature of the spine. Two years ago I had corrective surgery for it, so my back is now mostly straight, but I do have some limitation in my movement now. Wow, another person with what I called all my childhood 'NF' since I could not say it let alone spell it. I was also lucky. I had to have some special attention in school but it got better by the time I was in High school. Oh I also didn't read any of the other pages as I wanted to respond to this post while I remembered. I have a poor memory, but that seems to be a thing everyone in my family has now and then. I actually had to have surgery just last November on my left thumb due to a bump that had been there for a long time and seemed to be getting worse. It was making it hard to do things with that hand, good thing I'm right handed. Now I don't have to worry about something hitting it the wrong way or one of our cats scratching it. In fact just the other day one of them DID scratch that very thumb that no longer has a big bump. When I was younger some people thought I was stupid, but it was just a learning disability. I have learned to overcome it for the most part. I know that I am smart, I like to watch crime and Detective shows and figure out who did it before the end. I just have trouble sometimes expressing this and making people who do not know me understand. I hate being judged and it makes me clam up, but I feel I can talk here. |
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Post by Kitty279 on Aug 8, 2012 0:05:24 GMT -5
Glad that bump got taken care of and doesn't bother you any more  And I know that some people are very intelligent, but sometimes just can't express themselves so well. I know I am rather shy when it comes to talking in front of a group, even if it's only people I know well and talk to on a regular basis. Silly, but it still makes me nervous. Things like that often don't have anything to do with intelligence. |
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Post by Sailorgreeny on Aug 8, 2012 0:38:13 GMT -5
Some people can just be, well, stupid about it. I had one mean boy in 5th grade tell me his mom said I was ugly when she saw me in the class photo. Also after I got glasses that year he came up to me and said "Why do you wear glasses when you don't need them." I am near sighted. I got glasses so I could SEE. The same boy also overreacted when I answered a question in science class correctly back in 7th grade (He fell out of his seat). The question was the what the term of evergreens are (coniferous) and I knew it so I answered. We live in a place they are common so it's not surprising.
All of this is from memories that are slightly fuzzy, but are for the most part how it happened as even with my poor memory I tend to remember the bully. This kid was one of the only ones to ever say it to my face. I do also find it hard to talk to people a lot. I was very shy as a kid. But it seems that once I make friends I can talk to them without be so shy. Only one time did I have a friend 'stab me in the back' so to say. I have lost touch with friends, but that is different.
Also I do have trouble with spelling and grammar most of the time, but I have come a long way since High school because I started Role Playing. A Harry Potter RP was the first one I ever tried.
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Post by Kitty279 on Aug 8, 2012 1:26:23 GMT -5
I'm sorry for you there - sadly, there will always be some bullies in a school. A friend of mine has three autistic sons, and the oldest was already bodily attacked a few times up to breaking bones! Just because he's a bit different (and he's developed faaar beyond what the docs thought possible back then!) I know it's easier said than done, but try not to let these idiots influence your life too much. As I am deaf, I have meet people who obviously thought that means completely retarded as well - they talk in baby language with me, or in three-word-sentences - which actually makes it harder for me to understand them than when they talk normally. The upshot was that idiot who seriously asked me if I can read! Three times!! That's no answer to my question what he wanted from me in the first place after ringing my doorbell. I *so* wanted to kick him and finally just threw the door in his face. *grumbles* Idiot, that one! Yeah, you lose touch with some people - one moves away, or people just develop different interests, live a different life, that happens all the time. That's normal even for most not disabled people. Honestly, I don't see a problem with your grammar or spelling, it's completely ok. I've seen much, much worse in fanfictions, believe me! HP has its use, doesn't it? For me it was one of the reasons why I finally learned proper English  |
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Post by Sailorgreeny on Aug 8, 2012 2:57:09 GMT -5
I know that about friends, I was just saying that I was lucky only one of them ever hurt me. She was one of the reasons I got into an accident while riding my bike. Granted the other person was my big sister and I still love her, but the friend that was also involved had started to be mean to me before it happened.
The accident I got into on my bike when I was eight was me crashing into a closed garage door after being chased by the big sister and so-called-friend in the complex we lived in. I was wearing a helmet so I only scraped my knee and my right thumb badly along with other minor scrapes. I still have a scar on my right thumb so now BOTH my thumbs have a scar. One from the accident and one from the operation, one is just easier to see then the other. That is one of the reasons I strongly disapprove of people riding bikes/skating/skateboarding or anything I might have missed without the proper protection. Granted I had that opinion before that accident, it just made it stronger.
I had two relatives who were deaf. One as far as I remember was always deaf and the other lost her hearing later in life. My paternal grandmother had hearing aids when her hearing started to go, but she was also legally blind and had to use a electric magnifying glass thing to read something or the print had to be very big. I learned how to talk to deaf people from talking with my cousin (Maternal grandmothers cousin, we called her cousin) when I was a kid and then later when grandma started losing her hearing. Also I know that my paternal grandfather was color blind and he was somehow able to get a job that a color blind person technically could not have. I never meet him as I think he died before I was born.
As for my spelling and grammar, I'm very careful. This laptop is still new to me and I keep hitting the wrong keys and the caps lock gets stuck at times. Also auto spell check dose not hurt. The fanfiction with bad grammar and spelling make me made and I have a hard time reading it, especially if they make it one big block of text and you can't even tell who is talking. It's funny they make me made and yet I have trouble with it myself.
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Post by Chameleon on Aug 8, 2012 3:32:23 GMT -5
Ooh yes. I've had several people treat me like I'm retarded. It's so annoying. Their slow words makes it also way to difficult for me to understand me. No one has asked me if I could read, though ...
But yeah, I've got Cochlear Implant, and it was difficult for some members of the deaf society, that they bullied me. Not that particularly fashion, but several of them made it clear that they disapproved of it. I like them still, but I became kind of the black sheep there for awhile. I don't show there up anymore. Just once a year, or something like that.
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Post by brokenquill92 on Aug 8, 2012 3:54:33 GMT -5
Ooh yes. I've had several people treat me like I'm retarded. It's so annoying. Their slow words makes it also way to difficult for me to understand me. No one has asked me if I could read, though ... But yeah, I've got Cochlear Implant, and it was difficult for some members of the deaf society, that they bullied me. Not that particularly fashion, but several of them made it clear that they disapproved of it. I like them still, but I became kind of the black sheep there for awhile. I don't show there up anymore. Just once a year, or something like that. Some people in the blind community act like that they'll call you a sell out for trying to get eye surgery or getting about without a cane or dog |
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Post by Chameleon on Aug 8, 2012 3:58:24 GMT -5
Ooh. Yeah, I was the first one in my country who got it, now several have it, but it seemed like they really were making me feel bad for trying to get better hearing. Especially the older members. I remember especially a old man. All that : "It's not bad to be deaf ..." and all that kind of stuff. I never said it wasn't bad to be deaf, but well... I was nine when I got it, so I was once in awhile a bit upset. He never mentions it anymore though.
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Post by Kitty279 on Aug 8, 2012 10:44:01 GMT -5
Sailor, that was really not nice. No wonder you are so insistent on a helmet. By now I am the same when riding my horse. Once, I didn't, because the helmets available back then were a pain in the butt, but the new ones are much better. It saved me once when I fell ...
Chameleon, that sounds like jealousy, if you ask me - because you got something they didn't have. At age 9, that had to be hard for you *hugs* Hopefully, that's going to be better. Besides, IMO it's a huge difference if you try to do something for a child or an old person. As far as I can tell, the longer you are deaf, the less likely there's something going to help.
We once investigated this same surgery, but the docs didn't give us any hope it would help in my case, so I forgot about it. So far things go well even without.
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Post by Chameleon on Aug 8, 2012 10:53:13 GMT -5
Yeah... They say it's better for a child. They even operate on 1-year old babies for that. I know a woman who was deaf for long time, and got it. It didn't do any good for her.
And I don't know about jealousy... But yeah, it's possible.
Once I was on the airport, it was then I wasn't allowed to walk through the metal-dectator thingie, because of the operation. Well, they've discovered it doesn't do anything, but I wasn't allowed then, and I had a card to prove it, from the hospital. The man refused to allow me, until my mother and he clashed for a few minutes. Remember my mother was completely furious.
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Post by Kitty279 on Aug 8, 2012 11:01:44 GMT -5
Proves once again what I think, yes. And after 40 years, I don't expect it would do any good.
Oh man, that's so typical! Can't blame your mum for being furious, but I'm glad she didn't cower from that guard and insisted on your rights.
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Post by Dimcairien on Aug 8, 2012 15:41:12 GMT -5
Yeah... They say it's better for a child. They even operate on 1-year old babies for that. I know a woman who was deaf for long time, and got it. It didn't do any good for her. And I don't know about jealousy... But yeah, it's possible. Once I was on the airport, it was then I wasn't allowed to walk through the metal-dectator thingie, because of the operation. Well, they've discovered it doesn't do anything, but I wasn't allowed then, and I had a card to prove it, from the hospital. The man refused to allow me, until my mother and he clashed for a few minutes. Remember my mother was completely furious. I too couldn't walk through the metal detector this past summer as it was the older make. I knew I would set it off because of the titanium rod in my back. Thankfully, I just showed my metal implant card and ended up getting the pat down without anything overly crazy happening. Thankfully, on the trip home, it was the newer type of scanner that takes an image and doesn't set off the alarm if there is metal inside one's body. |
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Post by Chameleon on Aug 8, 2012 15:44:04 GMT -5
Yeah... It just happened once, but it was really annoying. We practically shoved the card in the man's face, but he still refused. Only let it go, after my mother insisted on it for several minutes.
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